The Art of Self-Connection (Especially When You Feel Disconnected)
- Val Blair
- Jul 13
- 2 min read
There are seasons when you feel like you’ve lost the thread.
You go through the motions, show up, reply, scroll, survive, but something underneath feels… far away.
Blurry.
Like you’re living a few inches outside your body.
Maybe it’s grief.
Perhaps it’s burnout.
Maybe it’s just the thousand invisible tasks we carry that crowd out our voice.
Whatever it is, you wake up one day and realize: I can’t hear myself anymore.
🌿 What is self-connection, really?
It’s not a buzzword.
Self-connection is the gentle, ongoing practice of being in relationship with yourself — your breath, your body, your truth.
It's a way of saying: I’m still here. And I matter.
It doesn’t mean loving yourself every moment.
It means noticing what you feel.
It means listening without judgment.
It means checking in — the way you would with someone you care about deeply.
🕊 Why do we lose it
We don’t disconnect from ourselves because we’re broken.
We disconnect because we’re human, and life is loud.
We were raised to meet expectations, not emotions.
To push through, not pause.
To keep going, do not look inward.
Add in trauma, loss, or chronic stress, and it’s no wonder we sometimes forget what we need — or who we are.
But forgetting doesn’t mean it’s gone.
Your connection to yourself is never lost — only waiting to be remembered.
🔑 A few small ways to return:
Breathe with both hands on your chest. Feel the rise and fall. Say nothing. Just be with yourself.
Ask: “What am I needing right now?” Don’t try to fix it. Just name it. Witness it.
Let your body lead. Stretch. Shake. Put on a song and move for 3 minutes. Self-connection often begins in the body, not the brain.
Write one honest sentence on what you are feeling or experiencing. Just a whisper of truth: “I feel overwhelmed,” or “I miss them,” or “I don’t know what I want.” That’s enough.
💛 You are not the storm.
You are the one learning to stand in the center of it, without abandoning yourself.
This isn’t about perfection.
It’s about practice.
Coming home again. And again. And again.
And if you need a hand along the way, that’s what A Light in the Chaos is here for.
You don’t have to navigate the noise alone.
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Want more gentle support? Explore The Lighthouse membership or download the free guide, Coming Home to Yourself, to keep walking this path of reconnection — one soft moment at a time.
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